Welcome!

For years I thought 50 was the doorway to a downhill slide toward the end of life. I was wrong! Coming into my fifties I experienced more freedom, within myself and in my circumstances, than ever before. A compelling creative power activated buried gifts and longings, challenged my limitations and offered deep nourishment and regeneration. This creative power is love. It is available to you at every moment.

The Power of Midlife Love is the magical elixir that alchemizes your midlife challenges and gifts into gold!

Awaken Your Power of Midlife Love for:

  • Soulful, sensual self-care
  • Vibrant health and natural beauty
  • Conscious, transformational relationships
  • Expanding creativity
  • Joyful service

Our world today vitally needs the unique and potent gifts of people at midlife who activate their power of love.

What do you want to do with The Power of Your Midlife Love?

I’d love to hear from you! Please send me your thoughts and questions and your own Power of Midlife Love stories!

Lea Bayles, M.A.

Holistic Life Coach, Catalyst for Love and Creativity, Transformational Speaker and author of the forthcoming book, The Power of Midlife Love.

 

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Have You Recovered From Lyme Disease?

14 months ago I was diagnosed with Lyme Disease. My naturopath believes I actually got it (from a deer tick, which was so small  it was never even noticed!)  over 20 years ago.

Yikes. It has been a scary, frustrating, infuriating, embarrassing, and, at times intriguing and fascinating process …

I am working with it on lots of levels (a bit of conventional medicine, lots of natural healing, herbs, inner work and energy practices, exploring the mythic, spiritual aspects, being kinder to myself, deepening and honing my self-care…) and I am getting better.  This bacteria is on its way out of my cells, my system and my energy field.

I would love to hear from people who have had chronic lyme disease and have gotten well.

Have you, or has anyone you know, been diagnosed with chronic Lyme and recovered? Please email me! I am beginning to compile stories of healing from Lyme and would love to talk to you. Your story of healing could be a wonderful inspiration to thousands of others who are struggling with this confusing and frightening disease.

Many thanks!

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Karma is an Invitation to Open Your Heart

Years ago I read a great definition of karma. Pema Chodron, meditation-in-the midst-of-life-master  wrote, “The idea of karma is that you continually get the teachings you need to open your heart.” This has become a guiding principle for me, delighting me in easeful times and helping me through stuck moments and tough times.

Here’s Chodron’s full quote:
“People get into a heavy-duty sin and guilt trip, feeling that if things are going wrong, that means that they did something bad and they are being punished. That’s not the idea at all. The idea of karma is that you continually get the teachings that you need to open your heart. To the degree that you didn’t understand in the past how to stop protecting your soft spot, how to stop armoring your heart, you’re given this gift of teachings in the form of your life, to give you everything you need to open further.”

I believe we are here to learn to love more and more fully.

Over and over, you are invited to love yourself more deeply and kindly, just as you are, in all your human-ness. As your heart opens to yourself, you can allow that love to radiate out into the world.

Sensing in my body, I realize that whenever I close my heart in reaction to someone  else, I am actually closing it to myself. And only when I open it to myself can I really open my heart to the world.

Since the heart is the center for courage as well, by opening your heart you connect with your courage. A deep, flowing heart strength allows you to be more clear and true in words and actions.

And over and over there is, each time, a chance to savor  that sweet, sweet, pleasure that comes from softening the armor of the heart.

Perhaps you would like to notice this for yourself.

Notice with kindness and tenderness. All of us here on the planet now are working on this. None of us are finished.

What situations or thoughts trigger a tightening of your heart?
What are the sensations of that tightening?
How does the heart tightening affect your breath, your attitudes, your happiness and your brain?

What happens when you soften your heart, even a little bit? (No need to do it all at once, you have a lifetime of invitations to explore this.)

As you soften your heart:
What shifts in you?
What new energy or strength or awareness becomes available to you?

When you stop letting  external situations or internal thoughts block you from your heart, you can joyfully access more and more of your full heart power.

Play with this. Enjoy the exploration. Drop me a note and tell me what you notice.

(If you want compassionate support in the process of softening your heart and accessing your true heart power, I am here for you! If you think private coaching with me might be right for you, email me with  Discovery Session in the subject line and I’ll email you to set up a complementary 45 minute Discovery Session to talk about what you want support with and how working with me could help.)

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I’m Terrified! (Like Georgia O’Keefe!)

“I’ve been absolutely terrified every minute of my life and I’ve never let it stop me from doing a single thing I wanted to do.”
~ Georgia O’Keefe

An admirer of Georgia O’ Keefe since first discovering her paintings when I was 14, I was fascinated a few years ago by a video about her life and creative choices. Watching her, in her 80’s, climb quickly up a tall, steep ladder to the flat roof of her adobe house, I thought “This woman was afraid of nothing.” Learning, just weeks later, that this visionary groundbreaker was indeed afraid of many things, that she knew terror as a daily companion, was enormously comforting and inspiring.

Remembering her words bolsters me when I am doing the things that make me want to run and hide, to throw up or to zone out and postpone. Her words, along with body-centered meditation practices, have helped me befriend fear. It does come up for me – as sudden full-on terror, vague anxiety or even just as avoidance, over and over.
Being curious about fear is a interesting daily awareness and- when I’m going to my creative edges and learning and growing- I get lots of chances to practice

So what am I terrified of this week?
Blogging.
Continue reading

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Instinctual Love of the World: A Potent Power of Midlife Love

What are the unique and potent qualities of midlife love?

What aspects of love are we instinctually, culturally and planetarily called to cultivate more fully at midlife?

This is something I am fascinated by and am exploring in my life and on this blog. I would love to hear your thoughts and comments.

 One of the potent powers of midlife love is Expansion of Instinctual Love: when our sense of identification spreads beyond our own self and own loved ones and embraces all the creatures sharing this precious Earth home.

This sense of Love Expanding for the World, is beyond personal love, yet as deeply felt as the most personal loves of all.

In the last few years I have felt and have heard other women express in a variety of ways what I have some to sense as our call to become Clan Mamas of the World.

All children are indeed my children,

All species my kin,

Every bit of this sweet and vulnerable blue green planet is truly my home, to tend and care for and celebrate. Continue reading

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A Nest for Your Soul: Meditation and Musings

A Nest for Your Soul Meditation
Just as a bird at times needs to create a nest
for rest, solace and comfort,
for bringing forth new life from deep quietude,
so you, at times, need a nesting place within.
a nest to savor, sinking in deeply,
a place where your soul incubates,
where new ideas, vitality, understandings and
ways of being come to life with ease.
Soften and rest into the refuge of your inner nest.
Your body relaxes, providing refuge for the breath.
Breath softens, providing refuge for your attention.
Inner presence is supported by attention, breath and body.
Resting, nesting deeply within,
enjoying sweet solace and deep comfort
here and now, in your own inner nest.

Listen to this meditation here.

Musings on a Nest for Your Soul
Earlier this summer a small bird nested on a deck support just outside our family room door. She cradled the nest ingeniously into the post corner using twine, mud, sticks and grass. For two weeks she sat on four eggs, barely moving.

Day after day she sat in instinctual devotion to her unborn babies, rarely leaving for brief times, then returning to sit again perfectly still, her little beak and tail extending over the edge of the nest.
Perfectly still she sat even as we went in and out of the door to hang laundry in the sun, walked by to go to the forest or garden and even as we celebrated noisy, happy, summer meals on the lawn just beyond her.

Still she sat, until this morning the eggs hatched. As if by magic, the tiny hard eggs are gone and four featherless, bony, translucent forms huddle and breathe together, snug in this nest made just for them.

This little bird, doing what she does naturally, inspired me to remember the instinctual need we all have at times to just be….to simply settle in and to rest deeply. Before we can bring forth new ideas, new projects, new ways of being, we often need time for incubation, a time to devote to the deep nest within, so that new life can be nurtured and can, in its time, arise naturally.

This meditation, A Nest for Your Soul, was inspired by this little bird and her instinctual devotion to nurturing her eggs.

Perhaps you might enjoy asking yourself:
What in your life could use some incubation?
What is your natural instinct calling you to do today?
What might come of some deep resting in your soul nest?

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